For years people always impressed upon me that sometimes the best response is no response at all. Sometimes I fall for responding to certain comments that are made to just get a rise about of me, but I am learning that is not really conducive to my time of day, so to speak.
Society is pushing a “let it all out and to talk it all out” phenomenon, but what ever happened to restraint? Does every thought, feeling, and reaction need to be dissected and replayed on a 24/7 loop? Is it ever just better to hold back and not express displeasure about a comment that hurt your feelings?
When in the past I might have expressed certain opinions about something, I feel once and awhile it feels good to hold back. I do not need to reply to every comment or action on the part of others. If someone says something that hurts my feelings, often it is better to just forget it and do something else.
Hurtful comments made by others are often more about that person and not about you anyway. I just do not see the point to commenting on everything because there are just some things not worth commenting on, so to speak.
I think sometimes not responding at all is the best choice. This is especially true if the comment was uncalled for and had nothing to do with you and there is no reason to believe you will ever see this person again.
On the other hand, in relationships, you have to stand up for yourself and make sure you do not allow yourself to be verbally abused on a regular basis. And, yes, it’s okay to get angry, too.
They say anger is a poison that when held in will kill you slowly. However, releasing it at the correct target can work wonders to make you feel much better. So it really depends on the circumstances, which comments should be ignored and which call for action.
Good insights, Aya! I think in friendships and relationships I would usually speak my mind, but not with homeless drug addicts who are ranting and raving up and down the street. I think I am better not saying anything to them at all
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